The Unmentionable Pleasure: Butt (Anal) Sex.

Talking about anal sex is tantamount to walking on coals. It takes being especially careful in word choice (cause even Spicy Princesses don’t want to offend their guests) while being thorough and direct (people WANT to know, they just don’t want to admit it).

I’ll admit, sometimes at my Pleasure PartiesI just skip this part of my presentation in order to avoid the wrinkled nose of distaste or someone’s quip of disgust. More often, I let my party attendees know they can escape to the part of their brain that is always playing loud rock and roll, and I’ll call them back when I’m done.

But consider paying attention with an open mind, if not enthusiasm, as our comfort zones regarding sex change periodically, and you never know if a few months or years from now, you may find yourself thinking about a little butt play.

The good stuff.

Butt sex feels good. That’s why about 80% of adults have thought about trying it, experimented with it or happily engage in anal sex regularly.

When women have something in their butt during a vaginal orgasm, the sensation is multiplied about ten times. Wowee!

Guys can have some profound orgasms through anal play. Their prostate gland acts similarly to a woman’s G-Spot and anal play puts pressure on his prostate. The more (gentle) pressure you put on it, the bigger his orgasm will be.  A blow-his-mind experience.

Of course, there are lots of people with concerns and issues around the idea of anal sex. Pain, safety, sexuality, etc. And of course, poop. That’s the big one.

We’re going to start with the basics, the how to stay safe AND enjoy yourself. Come back next week for answers to the most common questions asked about anal sex.

The Basics of Anal Sex

Ducky DooLittle, Sex educator, author and sex activist, does a fabulous job of explaining the anatomy of pleasure and how to explore your own and your partner’s butts while staying safe.

Beginner Anal toys.

Get some lube.

System Jo Lubes
Water: item 8500
Silicone: item 8470

Our butts are not self-lubricating so a quality lube is a must have.

A thicker lube like System Jo Water-Based is better for anal sex with a woman. Most couples have anal sex from behind. (Picture her on all fours) For women this means lube can slide down her body bringing bacteria into her vagina or urethra. A thicker lube will stay put in her anal region and keep infections away.

Most guys like a silicone lube like System Jo Silicone for anal play because a little bit goes a long way and silicone lube is also good for any skin on skin contact, so it works well for any hand-on-shaft play you may incorporate into your fun.

Plugs.

Little Flirt
item 6420

The Little Flirt is the perfect beginner toy. Not much bigger than your finger, it’s the perfect toy to feel how easy and gentle -yet super hot- anal sex can be. Super smooth and made of the highest quality 100% silicone, it’s easy to clean, and can even be sterilized by dropping in boiling water for 5 minutes.

Pro Touch
item 8862

The perfect prostate toy is the Pro Touch. Super smooth, for gentle entry and curved to hit the exact right spot. . His prostate is about two inches inside his body, on the navel side of his rectum wall so insert the Pro Touch with the tip pointed towards his belly button.  It also comes with a mini vibe that pops in and out, delivering vibrations through the tip right to the prostate.

Check back next week when Ducky and I talk more about Anal Sex. If you have any questions you’d like me to answer in a future post about anal sex, send them in right away. Your information is always confidential.

In the meantime, if you’d like to know about the featured toys, visit my For Your Pleasure site.  Once there, click on ’store’ and follow the prompts.  When you reach the product page, enter the item code in the search box.

Or just have fun exploring!

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