How to choose a Sex Toy, #2: What Do I Want it to Do?

I talk a lot about all the different kinds of sex toys and products out there, but I haven’t said much about how to choose the right one for you. With so many options, those of us who may never have used a vibrator, c-ring or anal plug can be completely overwhelmed. Even those of us who have experimented a little can have a hard time making a decision. This is the second in a series of posts about how to choose the right sex toys for you.

What do you actually want it to do?

Of course, the answer to how depends entirely on the answers to “why do you want a toy?” which you should read if you haven’t. Once you know WHY you want a toy, we can get a little more specific and narrow down the options:

• Who is going to use the toy?

You, your partner or both of you? Separately or together?

If it’s just for you, go ahead, be selfish! You only have to please yourself. *grin

If it’s for both of you, you can decide together or really keep in mind your partner’s preferences. Don’t go buy something that will specifically push his, or her, buttons. That is not going to work. Ever.

• What do you want the toy to do for you? Specifically?

Everyone comes in with different genital sensitivity. Some like firm and gentle. Others like rough, deep and hard. Still others want it just this side of pain, or even that side of pain.

The Echo
item #3015

If your clitoris is extremely sensitive, instead of a vibrator, maybe you want a dildo or dong. (Same thing, different words, no vibration.)

Dildos offer a feeling of fullness, allow people who enjoy penetrating their honeys but don’t have the biological equipment, to do so. They also can be great at stimulating G-Spots and Prostates. (Great at finding them too, if yours seems a mystery to you.)

Luv Touch Teazer
item #6732

If you’re looking for external stimulation, a vibrator can help you achieve orgasm with or without a partner. And vibrators come big or small, with various speeds, or with pulsation modes.

Aqua Adventure
item #7225

Pulsation is the best thing ever for clitoral play because each little pulse, followed by ‘off’, keeps your clit from getting over stimulated and turning off. (You know, when you’re sure he moved! Go on, keep blaming him, but really, NOT his fault.)

Rock Chic
item 9410

Or maybe you want both together: penetration and vibration?

Don’t forget to consider how you and your partner work. Do you take turns getting each other off, or do you go for simultaneous stimulation?

Once you figure out what you want the toy to do for you, it’s time to pick which toy to get. I’ll get more specific about this next week.

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• Female Orgasm