Spicy Princess | January 14th, 2009

Party Stories: The Traveling Pleasure Party Princess

This is where I invite you to be the fly on my Hostesses walls. Tuesdays are “Party Stories” day. I’ll regale you with the latest story, the incidents that touched me, confused me, even dumbfounded me. Be my Peeping Tabitha.

On the move

People often ask how far I’ll travel to do a party. There are really two different answers to that.

When I’m home, in Portland, I usually won’t drive over an hour, unless it’s a particularly wonderful hostess with LOTS of friends. And even then, I have to be bribed or cajoled or plead with. (Gotta make a living, you know!) It’s a good thing I have a team of Naughty Nymphettes throughout Oregon to bring Pleasure Parties to everyone else.

The beauty of my business though, is that I don’t have to stay home. I travel to PA, MD, DC, NY, CA (North, Central and this year SoCal) to do parties. These parties are different than the ones I do at home, because they are almost all hosted and attended by longtime friends and family as a way of luring me to visit. Like when I went to NY.

Talking about sex in a roomful of women with whom I am connected to by blood or deep friendship takes a little more emotional preparedness than when my hostess and the guests are new people in my life. I’ll admit, with my longtime friends and family it can be embarrassing. For them and for me. But while it might be a little harder, it’s always more rewarding.

The scene

This week’s party was in Oakland. I usually don’t travel for just one party, but it just worked out that way. My hostess (and her husband) are part of Ranch Boy’s long term crowd(I mean REALLY long term, cause he’s old *grin) as were two of the other eight guests. These are women who love me because Ranch Boy does and like me cause I’m me, Dana. They also love that I’m The Spicy Princess.

Have you ever tried to say “clitoris”, “anal plug” or “masturbation sleeve” in front of your sister’s friends or her husband without blushing? That’s what this is like. I admit it. I can’t. I was the color of my pink hair inside, and sometimes even on my cheeks. Thank god they love me. I may have stumbled over my words a little, but they got all the answers to their questions, and had a great time.

Common thread

Libido. Or the lack of it. That’s pretty much all anyone wanted to talk about. Either theirs, or their partner’s. Actually, this is pretty much THE topic of conversation all around me lately. In emails, twitter, conversations. The reasons vary, the frustration is all the same.

“Loss of libido in women, or low sexual desire, is the most common sexual problem for women and the main reason they seek sex therapy,” says Patricia Koch, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Biobehavioral Health; Women’s Studies at Pennsylvania State University and Adjunct Professor of Human Sexuality at Widener University. “It affects anywhere from 33% to 67% of women, depending on how sexual desire is defined and reported,” according to Koch, whose research specializes in loss of libido in women. ~ webmd.com

In my ‘For Your Pleasure’ Party bag of tricks, I have a variety of items that target this issue, both for men and women. In my next post I will highlight a few of my remedies for women. After that, we’ll talk about loss of libido in men. (What? You thought this was only a girl’s problem? Think again!)

The Stats

1 party. Good friends! 2 glasses wine. 2 bookings. $1527 sold. $764.50 made. Hanging with Dorks: Funtastic! Week’s rating: 8* out of 10. *Ranch Boy had to return to Portland early, otherwise would have rated a 10!