Vulnerability and Orgasms
For an in-your-face sex toy pusher, I am pretty conservative when it comes to talking about sex. Seems like a contradiction, doesn’t it?
I am great when it comes to talking about clitorises (or is that clitorii?), with a crowd or anal sex at a party, or even one on one about YOUR issue, but when it comes to talking about my intimacy stuff, the “real” juice stuff, with my Ranch Boy, I can be pretty shy. Not so much the exploits, but the feelings, the actual sensations, the what I really like.
That doesn’t mean I don’t go there, cause of course, I do. But I am often blushing inside.
This is “normal” of course. Vulnerability makes us all a little uncomfortable, even those of us who practice it for a living. And this can be good, or it can keep us from learning and exploring more of what we need. Especially if we use it as a shield. Protecting ourselves from possible hurt can keep us from really connecting to each other.
The more willing we are to reveal ourselves, not only does the relationship bloom, but sex gets better. There is less to hold back, to be careful of, and we can truly let go.
Is having remarkable, over-the-top orgasms worth opening yourself up? Tell me.
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“Protecting ourselves from possible hurt can keep us from really connecting to each other.”
This is very true. I gained much weight from having to sit around and heal from my accident a few years ago. There were so many things that changed in my mind for me.
Then followed the repercussions to my marriage. Not big, ugly, nasty ones… but enough to cause some hurt on both of us.
I have finally come to the conclusion recently that some things I can change and some I can’t, but I’m going to live much fuller… and my hubby likes the change. ;o)
Amy Mommaerts´s last blog post..Free Your Mind and the Rest Will Follow
So the more developed your PC muscles, the more intense your orgasms.
Amy, in the middle of protecting ourselves, breaching the gap can feel so big. BUt then when you finally have the courage to let yourself be known, you find that it’s so much easier and so much more rewarding than you thought it would be.
I applaud your willingness to figure out what’s important and then take the steps to make the change. Dana
Hi, I like your post I think you are so right. When you open yourself up more and just be you things can be better. I love sex and if it’ll make it better I’m all for it.
Lorna Darden´s last blog post..Springfling The Horniest Babes Are Waiting For You
Thanks, Lorna