Comments on: Hot Affair: How much work does a relationship need?

By: Spicy Princess

Spicy Princess — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:37:30 +0000

Glad you liked it! Post away, just please put my name and a link to my blog in there.

By: KrisBelucci

KrisBelucci — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:05:39 +0000

I really liked this post. Can I copy it to my site? Thank you in advance.

By: spicyprincess

spicyprincess — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 19:15:55 +0000

Exactly. “Looking for a life raft” is the perfect image.

Part of why I have my Pleasure Party business is because it allows me to “wave the magic” wand for so many more women than I would ordinairily come into contact with. I feel lucky to have readers like you who will jump on the bandwagon and empower the women in their lives to open their eyes as well. Of course, everyone gets there in their own way, and for some reason many women find the strength to be honest with themselves when they hit 40, or close to 40. The most we can do is keep talking about these things so when they are ready to listen they can hear it. Spicy P

By: Eileen

Eileen — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 00:05:34 +0000

I feel very fortunate to have found this at 34. But then again, I did countless, excruciating crash courses in the non-awesome, so I feel like I have paid my dues at least

The idea that being in a non-easy relationship is “even more lonely” than being single is a very powerful realization to have. Until you get there, you’re not consciously choosing a relationship, you’re looking for a life raft. It’s impossible to make a non-fear-based decision from this position.

I want to wave a magic wand and give the gift of this knowledge to every woman who hasn’t gotten there yet! Because I do sort of regret the time I wasted (though I guess I couldn’t have gotten there through any path but my own, ah well).

Great post, and thanks for chatting it up on Twitter!

Eileen

Eileen´s last blog post..In the first person

By: spicyprincess

spicyprincess — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 19:13:25 +0000

Christine – Something happens when women turn 40 I think! We start being a lot more discriminating in our choices, especially around our relationships. Now that I’m about to turn 49 and start on my 50th year on the planet, I am full of excitement about what this new decade will bring. One thing for sure: I’m done looking for someone new to sleep with! *grin

By: Christine Martell

Christine Martell — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 18:47:09 +0000

Dana,
A big shock for me is being in a relationship where I don’t spend most of my time trying to decide if I should stay or should I go. I thought it was part of relationships, until I was 40. Lets just say I had to practice a lot to get it right

So glad we get wiser with age.

Christine Martell´s last blog post..Analyzing what went wrong