Spicy Princess | December 1st, 2008

A Hot Affair

Wouldn’t you rather be having an affair?

I don’t mean cheating. I’m not that kind of girl, (at least not anymore). I mean the thrill, the excitement-can’t swallow, swoon-at-the-sight-of, wet-panties part of a relationship. The passion, fire, chemistry. The parts that we tend to ignore in the mechanics of simply living. The going-to-work, cleaning-the-house, paying-the-bills, feeding-the-mouths mechanics.

We all remember those first few weeks, months, for some us lucky ones, years, where we would resonate with mutual electricity. How do we go back there? Can we?

I hate lists of Romance Tips or those stupidly insulting Cosmo articles that pretend it can all be made better by doing these 10 things that we don’t do specifically because we are not having a great relationship moment.

The Affair Experiment.

How about we try one relatively small task a week. You can pick and choose as they come along, or you can try each one and see if you get where you’re looking to go. One rule: No Pressure! There are no shoulda, woulda, coulda’s in this experiment.

You CAN’T have a great relationship with that other person in your life, if you aren’t taking care of yourself first.

That’s where we’re going to start. Being nice to yourself. Its trite and over used, but as much as I hate to admit it, sometimes cliches are right on the mark. That’s why they’re cliches. Duh!

Life is a bitch. That’s the way it often is. The small giving gestures of our partners can get lost in our thirst for some attention. So let’s give ourselves some of the TLC we crave, or feel as if we deserve. If nothing else, we’ll feel happier. If we’re lucky, it will help us recognize the little things our partners do, just cause.